The Search for Healing

(1944 – 2012)

After leaving school, Ray had joined the Passionist Order, living in monasteries for five years before discerning that religious life was not for him. So he enrolled in a Bachelor of Social Work degree at Sydney University, majoring in psychology, and graduated with First Class Honours in 1971. He worked at the Department of Social Security, and took leave-of-absence from there whilst he completed his Master’s Degree in Social Work.

His extensive clinical “practicum” as part of his Masters study included specialising in marriage counselling. In later years he researched love and marriage topics extensively and saw the value of a comprehensive pre-marriage education course for young couples.

In mid-1978 Ray was recruited to the Archdiocese of Sydney’s Catholic Family Services as Deputy Director, based at Parramatta. When the new Diocese of Parramatta was formed in 1986, Ray was appointed as the inaugural Director of Centacare Catholic Social Services at Parramatta.

Despite his considerable administrative duties, Ray continued his work as a counsellor and was actively involved in staff training and clinical supervision. He was a registered psychologist (MAPS) and in later years lectured part-time in Social Work at the Australian Catholic University (ACU).

Ray dedicated much of his life to counselling those in the community who experienced psychological or emotional pain or distress. Assisting people affected by sexual abuse became a focus of Ray’s work, directly in counselling those who had been abused and indirectly by providing training and supervision for others working in this field.

Hope, forgiveness and personal truth

Introduces Ray’s thoughts about the philosophy and psychology of hope and describes essential dimensions of the experience of hope, which underpin his counselling strategies. Explores receiving and giving love, finding the truth about oneself, healing wounds from the past and challenging false beliefs.

Love and Marriage

Presents a vision of marriage and introduces the concept of loving presence to sustain the relationship over time. Explores marital intimacy and how spouses can grow in love. Discusses sexual communication in lovemaking, and includes background notes on sexuality for presenters of pre-marriage education courses.

Working with Groups of Adults

Introduces strategies for presenting information to adult learners, which is always a two-way communication. Discusses effective use of group processes to facilitate learning and explores ways to work with groups of Indigenous people.

Counselling

Explores personal change in detail and shows why changes in behaviour and attitude are essential outcomes in all counselling or therapy situations. Discusses approaches to marriage counselling and details the selection and training of marriage counsellors. Provides extensive material on working with families.

Dealing with Sexual Abuse and Exploitation

Reflects on the occurrence of sexual abuse by clergy and religious, and explores the challenges in providing pastoral care to people affected by such abuse. Provides a summary of Ray’s 1996 Churchill Fellowship report on ways to assist faith communities (congregations) to heal after allegations of sexual abuse by a pastor. Discusses aspects of adult victim consent in sexual exploitation within pastoral relationships. Highlights possible impacts of sexual abuse of a young girl on her experiences of lovemaking years later.

APPENDIX: Pain – Hope – Healing: The Experience of Faith Community Members When a Church Leader is Guilty of Sexual Abuse.

This is the 1996 Churchill Fellowship report by Ray Reid, which was written as a manual for church leadership teams. The Winston Churchill Memorial Trust holds co-copyright with the author for all Fellowship Reports, and has given permission for this Report to be included in this volume of Ray’s writings. The full report is publicly available on the Organization’s website, and can be downloaded from www.churchilltrust.com.au : choose ‘Fellows and Reports’ and enter ‘Raymond Reid’ into the ‘Fellow or Project’ space, click on ‘Search Projects’ button, and choose option to ‘Download Report’.

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From the psychological point of view, I have come to the conclusion that there are two major questions all of us are fundamentally seeking to find an answer to, as we live our lives. Our basic hope is that we can find fulfilling answers to these two questions.

The first is: Who am I? or What is my true identity?

The second is: How do I find the love of my life?

The Need for Personal Hope

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Churchill Fellowship Report